The 4 Most Important Reasons To Quit Dieting In 2015 (And What To Do Instead)
By now we all know that diets don’t work, right? Even so, with a 68 billion dollar weight loss industry constantly enticing us to jump on the diet-and-deprivation bandwagon, it’s hard to just say no. I get it.
But here’s the thing: You cannot shame and deprive your way to a happy and healthy life. Even if you lose some weight on a restrictive diet, it doesn’t stick. And it certainly doesn’t make you feel fulfilled or free. Going on a diet is like putting a Band-Aid on a broken arm. They’re ineffective and exasperating at best, emotionally damaging and physically harmful at worst.
So this year, instead of dieting (and instead of setting totally unrealistic New Year’s resolutions) try something radical. Something much, much better. Try treating yourself and your body the same way you would treat someone you love—with respect, compassion, and loving care.
Ending the battle with weight is all about starting a healing relationship with yourself. You (absolutely, positively, and without a shadow of a doubt) have the power to transform your relationship with food, your hunger, and your body, truly. Life is way too short to spend another year, another week, or even another day at war with yourself.
Here are my top 4 reasons to ditch dieting this year (and forevermore), and what to do instead…
1. Diets don’t address the reasons why you struggle
Maybe you’re afraid of being “seen” and the extra weight is your excuse to stay in your comfort zone (FYI: Real change happens outside your comfort zone!). Or perhaps you turn to food to avoid feeling negative or strong emotions. Or you might be really sensitive and use the excess weight as a sort of armor to make you feel safe. Or maybe your weight issues are related to childhood abuse, abandonment, or other painful losses you experienced growing up, and for you food equals comfort and weight equals protection.
Diets don’t help you understand WHY you overeat in the first place, so they don’t get to the root of the issue. And without this vital information, you’re going to have a hard time.
Once you understand your fears, however, you can effectively work your way through them. And this will give you the psychological green light you need to lose the weight, for good. That’s why identifying and releasing your weight loss fears is a critical part of my Smaller Size Bigger Life program.
2. Diets encourage you to ignore your body’s wisdom
Feeding yourself according to external cues—the clock, the amount of food on your plate, or a rigid dieting plan—goes against your bodies’ natural instincts and internal wisdom. And if you skip meals or underfeed yourself, you trigger your primal drive to overeat.
The truth is this: Your perfectly designed body instinctively knows exactly what it needs to thrive and naturally reach its ideal weight—you just have to listen to it. Think of your hunger like a scale…
Once you reach a 1, 2, or 3 on the Hunger Scale (the Danger Zone), it’s nearly impossible to make mindful eating choices. And H-ANGRY is never, ever pretty. Plus, once you’re in the Danger Zone it’s way too easy to get to 10. It happens FAST.
As often as possible, eat in the Fuel Zone. Start eating at around a 4 or 5 and stop when you get to a 6 or 7. And if you find yourself eating when you’re in the Discovery Zone (a 7 or above on the scale), most likely you’re using food for emotional relief—to comfort, to reduce anxiety, or to reward. But this is just a habit and you can absolutely break it. Instead of feeding your feelings, take a few minutes and actually deal with them (I promise this is not as difficult as you might think).
The next time you have an intense emotional food craving, first take a few deep breathes and really acknowledge any accompanying feelings of fear, anxiety, or whatever. Once you make yourself aware of your feelings, simply say to yourself “I choose to feel peace instead.” Concentrate on your breathing and just repeat this mantra until you feel a little calmer. This begins a powerful new habit of releasing your fears instead of holding on to them.
Next, write out exactly what you are feeling (and why), or what you are trying NOT to feel (and why). And then do something else… something fun! Take a relaxing bath, call a friend, watch a favorite movie, whatever. By checking in with your hunger you’re rewiring your brain, so instead of…
Hunger = Eat
You are training yourself to think…
Physical Hunger = Eat
Emotional Hunger = Feel & Heal
Tuning in to what your body needs (instead of ignoring your hunger), builds trust, and learning how to get your emotional needs met (without eating) transforms your relationship with food. This is the opposite of what diets do, and this leads to long-lasting change and weight loss.
3. Diets don’t program your mind for success
We all have a set of memorized behaviors, emotional reactions, beliefs, and attitudes that run behind the scenes. This subconscious program determines how we live and make decisions on a moment-to-moment basis. And when you have beliefs and thoughts that don’t support your health goals, you end up constantly sabotaging yourself.
Plus, if you only consider yourself “worthy” or “good enough” when you eat less, weigh less, or stick to an unattainable set of dieting rules, you set yourself up for a never-ending cycle of self-hate and frustration.
Trying to lose weight without also changing your mind is a BIG weight loss mistake. On the other hand, if you shift your mindset from fear and guilt to acceptance and forgiveness while you implement healthy changes, you’ll fast track your success.
So what’s the best way to start shifting your mindset? Easy. Stop criticizing yourself. Accept and love yourself exactly as you are (yup, extra pounds and all!). This is the first step to making any change. You’re not giving up. You’re empowering yourself to feel good now so that you can take positive actions towards your goals with confidence.
4. Diets keep you locked in food prison
Food is a seriously important part of self-care. One of the best ways to love yourself is to provide your body with nutrient-rich foods that make you feel and look your best. Food is also the universal connector—we all have to eat! We all celebrate with food, socialize with food, and fuel ourselves with food. Food is a life-giving necessity and eating should be fun and enjoyable.
Diets, however, make you feel like food is the enemy. Food restriction also triggers binge eating, increases anxiety, and slows your metabolism. Diets rob you of the pleasure of eating and keep you locked in a self-imposed food prison. But this year you can choose food freedom instead. It’s all up to you.
Most people don’t expect their journey to health and lasting weight loss to be filled with joy and ease. Most expect struggle, sacrifice, and suffering, and so that’s exactly what they get. But the struggle does not move you forward in positive ways—it keeps you stuck and miserable.
In Smaller Size Bigger Life—my online weight loss program for women who struggle with emotional eating, binge eating, overeating, or body image issues—you’ll discover how to change with ease. You’ll release your weight loss blocks and learn how to lose the weight for good—no dieting, restriction, or self-hate required. The next class starts in early January. Find out more HERE.
Are you ready to stop dieting forever? In the comments below I’d love to hear what you’re doing to make 2015 your healthiest and happiest year yet.
With so much love,